"I was always looking for The Threatening Thing." I really get that feeling. It seems common in the DC community, along with the haunting "Things Are Not What They Seem". The vigilance is exhausting, but from my experience, you notice most after you lay it down. As a parent, watching my kids NOT have to carry it (because we tell the truth) is a really healing.
Thank you so much for this comment. I'm sorry I'm only now seeing it. Late August was a shitshow with my mom's "celebration of life" and the craziness of my full time job at a university...."things are not what they seem", yes!!! I have questions about telling the truth--my brother (my mom and dad--not biodad--had him without a donor) doesn't want his tween/teen kids to know. Nor does my stepsister (teen/adult kids.) WTF? I feel....crazier because of this. Now that my mom's dead, I'm wondering what might change. I guess I feel like protecting the donor's privacy is the right thing to do. But if my dad who raised me doesn't care, why does it have to be a secret, as long as I'm not outing the donor???
"I was always looking for The Threatening Thing." I really get that feeling. It seems common in the DC community, along with the haunting "Things Are Not What They Seem". The vigilance is exhausting, but from my experience, you notice most after you lay it down. As a parent, watching my kids NOT have to carry it (because we tell the truth) is a really healing.
Thank you so much for this comment. I'm sorry I'm only now seeing it. Late August was a shitshow with my mom's "celebration of life" and the craziness of my full time job at a university...."things are not what they seem", yes!!! I have questions about telling the truth--my brother (my mom and dad--not biodad--had him without a donor) doesn't want his tween/teen kids to know. Nor does my stepsister (teen/adult kids.) WTF? I feel....crazier because of this. Now that my mom's dead, I'm wondering what might change. I guess I feel like protecting the donor's privacy is the right thing to do. But if my dad who raised me doesn't care, why does it have to be a secret, as long as I'm not outing the donor???