I'm sorry this is a particularly tough time for you. I'm here for you if you want to talk. I'm happy for the unexpected outcome of a closer relationship with your husband.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time right now. Anytime darling. You know where I am.
Your mom has lost...a secret? A piece of who you are? Power? I mean, I know that isn't what was meant, but I struggle to grasp her logic. However, the need to meet - yes! That makes a whole lot of sense and I can feel your trepidation that it might not happen. I see it happening, definitely. Love you
I asked my husband if he would want to meet his half siblings, were he to discover himself to be DC. He was like, nope. Didn't hold meaning for him, it's "just genes". I do not understand that. I would be like those two half sisters in the podcast, excitedly connecting, and hopefully even getting schnockered with the donor. Finding out there were (what was it? 70 or so?) other half-siblings might make me feel less inclined to meet everyone, like, hey, it really is just genes and I'm busy and I already have my loved ones. Although nobody can know how they would actually respond until it happens to them. This blog has helped me understand some of the possible consequences, good and bad. Glad the bond between you and hubby has strengthened that is cool!
Yeah, there's a lot of ways it can go...only so much of which we have any control over.
I'm just curious and there's no way I'd want to avoid finding out about someone who shares my genes. The "just genes" thing--yes, I get it--it doesn't have to mean anything--and I wonder if for men that can be a more common thought. They never really have control over their genetic input. So maybe having that acceptance/understanding being built it makes it simpler? Is it my brother's personality, or the fact that he's my brother? Or that fact that it's not an issue for him anyway? It's hard accepting the "it's just genes" part and also the need for secrecy around it. If it isn't a big deal, it's not a big deal? I dunno. Thanks for puzzling through with me.
I'm sorry this is a particularly tough time for you. I'm here for you if you want to talk. I'm happy for the unexpected outcome of a closer relationship with your husband.
Thanks so much, dear pal!!! Yes, grateful for the ol' silver lining.
and what I said to Rachel, too--I guess I know I can go to you to talk because, well, I've done so! ;) thank you.
I'm sorry you're having a tough time right now. Anytime darling. You know where I am.
Your mom has lost...a secret? A piece of who you are? Power? I mean, I know that isn't what was meant, but I struggle to grasp her logic. However, the need to meet - yes! That makes a whole lot of sense and I can feel your trepidation that it might not happen. I see it happening, definitely. Love you
Yes, I know where you are. And I clearly have no qualms about planting myself in your backyard with some cheap beer as needed...xoxoxo
ps thank you
I asked my husband if he would want to meet his half siblings, were he to discover himself to be DC. He was like, nope. Didn't hold meaning for him, it's "just genes". I do not understand that. I would be like those two half sisters in the podcast, excitedly connecting, and hopefully even getting schnockered with the donor. Finding out there were (what was it? 70 or so?) other half-siblings might make me feel less inclined to meet everyone, like, hey, it really is just genes and I'm busy and I already have my loved ones. Although nobody can know how they would actually respond until it happens to them. This blog has helped me understand some of the possible consequences, good and bad. Glad the bond between you and hubby has strengthened that is cool!
Yeah, there's a lot of ways it can go...only so much of which we have any control over.
I'm just curious and there's no way I'd want to avoid finding out about someone who shares my genes. The "just genes" thing--yes, I get it--it doesn't have to mean anything--and I wonder if for men that can be a more common thought. They never really have control over their genetic input. So maybe having that acceptance/understanding being built it makes it simpler? Is it my brother's personality, or the fact that he's my brother? Or that fact that it's not an issue for him anyway? It's hard accepting the "it's just genes" part and also the need for secrecy around it. If it isn't a big deal, it's not a big deal? I dunno. Thanks for puzzling through with me.